In Praise Of A Terrific Partner
When a relationship is new, we normally talk about the good things about our partner. Whether you met them internet dating or in some other form, when love is new we can never say enough about the person we care about. We go on so much about them that we drive our closest friends crazy with a little bit too much information.
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if things stayed like that? It would, but hey, things change. Sometimes these changes are for the good, and sometimes for the bad.
If we fast forward a few month or even years, the change is remarkable. Where we used to rant and rave about our partner’s wonderful side, now we complain to our friends. We complain about what our partner does and doesn’t do, what he or she says or doesn’t say; the list is endless.
Relationship disappointments are inevitable. Your partner will say something that hurts you and there will be days when you’re tempted to call the whole thing off. So how about changing that around and concentrating not just on the negatives when talking to your friends, but also the positive.
Balance in life is truly important. It is important to be able to vent to someone about things and event tell them when you are mad at them, but it is also important to say good things about someone as well. Too much either way may not be healthy for the relationship and may create an imbalance for growth. The wrong balance would allow you to lose them as well.
I’m not saying that you shouldn’t share either the good or the bad about your mate with your friends. But a little restraint goes a long way. You need to think about when to share and how much to share. Take a deep breath and give it some thought before your mouth runs away with itself.
This will help you in two ways. It will allow you to gain some insight into the situation before talking to anyone. If you’ve given it plenty of thought and you’re still confused or upset, then you need to talk to someone. Go with your instincts on this one.
When talking with a friend about your love life, do remember to balance the positive info with the negative stuff. It’ll allow you friend to not just take your side but it will give them a balanced view of the situation. They might even be able to uncover some positive nuggets that you’ve overlooked. I mean you started dating them for a reason, so any help you can get in remembering why would be a good thing.